Genesis 3:16-19 NLT
Then he said to the woman, “I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain, you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.”

Ephesians 5:22-24 NLT
For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

I want to share something with our church wives that God has taught me. This teaching only came to me when I got delivered from one particular problem.

Genesis 3:16, wives were placed under a curse. The curse was “You will desire to control your husband.” Since that moment, the curse never stopped.

I’ve NEVER thought I had a controlling problem. Because it was not obvious, no one thought I had a controlling spirit. I was not exempt from the curse of desiring to control him.

Most wives control their husbands using many tactics; they might and might not know if they are actually using tactics.

What are tactics?
They are nagging, Self-Pity, crying, showing sadness, getting angry, threatening to divorce, threatening to leave, becoming violent, drinking alcohol, going out with friends and coming home late, spending money and shopping, talking about sad stories in the past, talking about past trauma, and talking about their husband’s problems to their husbands and so on.

Wives do not understand that their husbands are not the problem, but Eve needs to be delivered from their curse, which is the first step of their deliverance.

God gave us the way to get our deliverance. Ephesians 5:22. “Submit to your husbands.” Some translations, such as TPT, say “devoted” to your husband. But I will use the word Submit since it’s the word God has given me as a revelation.

The Word said, ” Submit to your husbands in EVERYTHING.” Ok, you need first to understand God’s context. Everything does not mean submit to your husband’s requests, such as “Do not go to church,” “Go steal such and such,” or “Let us drink.” “Let us do drugs.” and so on and on.

Ephesians 5:24 says wives should submit to their husbands in all things as the church submits to Christ.

This is VERY IMPORTANT. By doing this, the curse of your desire to control your husband will be cast out, the evil spirits that had been dwelling in you that made you manipulate every which way to control your husband will leave when you SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBAND IN EVERYTHING.

Everything means Everything. There will be things that your husbands do or say won’t make sense or even look “wrong” but do not argue or fight but submit to the situation.

The feeling of “Not wanting to obey and listen” to your husband is the evil spirit using your emotions. But your submission will BRING YOU FREEDOM!!

Once, God whispered to me during my prayer. Because Pastor Steve did something, this was a problem between him and me. I advised him a few times that I tried to make him see the issue he consistently had clearly. There was NO WAY I was wrong.

I was venting to God about it because it happened again, and I still did not fight him or argue about it. I had submitted to the situation, although I still thought it was still his issue that needed to be fixed.

But God said, “Ephesians 5:22, submit to your husband wasn’t really given for husbands, it was really given for wives because I love my daughters so much. By submitting to your husband, you will get freedom; It’s like when the Church submits to the Christ, they receive freedom.”

Wives, the book I recommend you guys to read, it confirms what God had taught us at this church. Wives need to be proper Helpers first. God can’t, and He won’t raise up husbands to have them become corrupted and fall. Unchanged or fixed wives will control their husbands in a wrong way.

Wives, change and resolve issues one at a time. Start with small matters. God is waiting for you so that He can raise up your husband. Don’t just pray to God to change him, that won’t happen. May God be your strength to overcome and be victorious!!

Pastor Yoojin Kim